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Let’s talk about the f***ing fours. Rated F for the F-Bomb.

You always hear about the terrible twos and the trying threes but my god they have nothing on the fucking fours. There’s no doubt that two and three year olds can be a handful, they can definitely throw fits with the best of them. However, what I’ve learned this last year is that four is what nightmares are made of.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are some pretty amazing things that come with have a four year old. They can tell you what they want, they can be easier to take out in public, and they are so full of life and wonder. On the flip side of they that, they can tell you what they want and there will be hell to pay if they don’t get it. They also don’t have a total grip on their emotions which on some days is a recipe for disaster. I have never seen anyone hit just about every emotion until the day I told Ukiah he couldn’t come with me to check the mail without pants (Am I the only one who’s kid hates clothes?) He cried, got angry, finally realized he wasn’t going to win the argument, put on pants and starts skipping out the door laughing like nothing had happened.

Some days are harder than others, some days I question whether or not I’m actually the most stubborn person in this house. Having a strong willed child isn’t all bad at least not until they want nothing more than to argue. I swear some days he sees the inside of his room more than the rest of the house. There’s a fine line between not breaking your child’s strong will and not taking their shit. We need strong adults in this world but we also need them to be respectful and well mannered.

Sometimes I think it’s just me and I’m just failing at this whole parenting thing. Some days I feel awful because I feel like all I’ve done is send him to his room or yell. Then I hop on Facebook to chat with my birth board besties and realize we’re all going through the same thing, I find comfort in that.

Four isn’t all bad, he’s a great helper, insanely inquisitive, and unapologetically dances to beat of his own drum. He’s a free spirit and I love that about him. Although I am so ready to get past this stage, I’m sure some day I will look back and miss these days. I will also use them to laugh at him when he has his own four year old. You know what they say about payback 😉

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Have you met my kids?

Tomorrow is the day. I will wake up, get ready for work, and drive right passed that little market that screams “energy sold here!” In theory it’s a fantastic idea. I mean energy drinks are bad for you right? Well yes, they are but have you met my kids?

I love my kids more than anything but I’m pretty sure I haven’t slept in 11 years. Some days I’m not even sure how I’m upright. Since I plan to talk about them a lot I thought I should introduce you to them. Let’s start with the oldest.

Dominic is eleven going on teenager. He can’t wait to grow up an make his own rules. He’s a super creative kid who loves reading and making comics. He has autism but he doesn’t let them stop him. He works harder than any kid I know. I’ve learned so much from him. He’s a Grade A pain in the ass but so are the other two. He loves Disneyland and video games and wants to be a vlogger someday.

Ukiah is a four year old ball of energy, seriously I don’t think this kid ever really gets tired. He’s super smart and is constantly surprising me with the things that come out of his mouth. He has a fantastic imagination and is the loviest kid you’ll ever meet. Like his brother he loves Disney and gaming. He wants to grow up to be a doctor someday.

Last but not least is Alice. She just turned one this October is the most fascinating little girl I’ve ever met. She’s also a real spitfire with a fierce attitude. She definitely knows what she wants. She recently started walking which has been an adventure. She is so strange but in a wonderful way and it’s been exciting watching her discover new things. She loves her brothers and they adore her. I have no doubt they will always protect her. I’m excited for our trip to Disneyland in December with her being a bit older. It’s going to be great watching her take it all in.

Being a parent is my favorite thing I’ve ever done. Watching these guys turn into their own person is and will be an amazing and exhausting. Special shout out to Nos energy drinks and coffee. I couldn’t do this without you guys! Thanks for sticking around and reading about my littles, I hope you’ll hit that follow button and be around for my next post.

Flying with small children.

The idea of traveling with small children, especially babies can be stressful. So stressful that you tell yourself “maybe next year, or the year after that”. I get it, I was totally you, there was no way I was going to travel with a baby who wasn’t even one, a four year old with so much energy he can put the energizer bunny to shame, and an eleven year old with asd.

For months my husband tried convincing me to go down to Disneyland but I was afraid of everything that could go wrong. My daughter hates the car so an hour drive to the airport plus a two hour flight was a recipe for disaster. What if she cried the whole way? It would have been miserable. What if my boys fought the whole way, or my four year old got scared, or the noise and crowded space caused my oldest freak out? All the what ifs fed my anxiety and had me convinced it would be horrible experience.

After months of convincing and a trip down there himself my husband finally talked me into going for my birthday and guess what? We made it through the flight without a fit and the kids loved the parks. I even managed to take all three kids to Disneyland for 9 hours by myself when my husband was sick.

Being prepared is a must if you’re going to fly with kids. Here are some things I found useful.

Pick your seats ahead of time

You will have to see if this is available for the airline you choose to fly (We fly Alaska) This comes in handy when there is more than three of you and you want to make sure you all stay close together. For Alaska, I downloaded their app and added our flight to the ‘Trips’ section. From there I selected the trip and tapped on our names which gave me the ability to choose our seats.

Take advantage of early boarding

Passengers traveling with small children are given the option of boarding first. This gives you a chance to get your bags put away and everyone settled without worrying about the people who will soon be seated around you.

Bring something to keep them occupied

Before our trip I loaded the iPad with digital movies. You know those slips that come with your Blu Ray you swear you’ll never use but decide to keep anyway? Those are slips of sanity! I spent a good hour entering codes into the ‘Movies Anywhere’ app. If you do this, make sure you download them for offline use otherwise you will need WiFi to watch them. Also don’t forget the headphones, while you may be thrilled to watch Coco for the millionth time, I guarantee you not everyone on the plane will feel the same. If electronics aren’t your thing, playing cards and coloring books go a long way.

Bring snacks

Food is offered on the plane but if you don’t want to $10 or an assortment of cheese your kids probably won’t eat anyway I suggest bringing easy to eat without making a huge mess snacks. We brought goldfish, fruit snacks, and fruit bars for our kids.

Something for their ears

Pressure changes are uncomfortable for everyone but children may not deal with it as easily as an adult. If your child is old enough I suggest gum. Pacifiers are great option for babies and for nurslings pop them on the boob if you feel comfortable in doing so. I nursed my daughter on take off and she ended up sleeping for half of the flight.

I think the most important thing to remember is to just breathe. Things might not go according to plan, we missed our flight home and sat in the airport for five hours waiting for the next flight but we survived. Your baby may get fussy, I think most people are pretty understanding, pay no mind to the ones who aren’t. There’s a good chance things are going to go a lot smoother than you think and it will be totally worth it.