It’s crazy to think that tomorrow is Christmas and then a week later 2019 begins. The year really seems to have flown by. Looking back it’s definitely been a mixed bag of good times and bad. On one hand we’ve dealt with sickness and trips to the hospital, on the other we got to do wonderful things like introduce the kids to the amazingness that is Disneyland.
Our extended family has grown with the birth of babies and friendships have been mended while others seem to have dissolved. The baby can walk and climb now. The boys are continuing to grow and find themselves. They also continue to grow on my last nerve 😬 Don’t worry though my sanity was lost long ago so at least we don’t have to worry about me losing my mind anymore than I already have.
Some things I’m looking forward to in 2019 are more trips to Disneyland, obviously 😉 all the amazing movies set to come out, especially Star Wars and Avengers, my soon to be five year old starting school, seriously this kid needs it, making more ears, and continuing to blog and get to meet more wonderful people because of it.
How was your year? What are you most looking forward to? Leave me a comment below and tell me about it.
Let’s talk about the last one, no not the last potato chip, not the last piece of cake, the last baby. I’ve read articles recently and heard people talk about how sad they are to be done having children. All the last firsts and the newborn cuddles that will never happen again. Now I’m not knocking anyone for feeling this way I just feel differently.
See I’m done having children and I am 100% okay with that. Three was the magic number for me, our daughter, who is currently 13 months old, completed our family and while I am enjoying the baby stage I’m not going to miss it. The baby stage is hard, the sleepless nights, the endless diapers, the fear of choking, seriously I swear this kid has a small object detector. I’m not complaining about these things (except the choking) but I’m not necessarily going to miss them either.
People seems to dwell on the things they’ll never experience again but I’m excited for all the things we will. I can’t wait to get to do things with all my kids that they’ll all remember. To watch their personalities grow and change. Shit I’m excited to be able to drive somewhere without stressing about whether or not the baby will make it there with out having a meltdown and we’ll have to pull over.
I’m ready to enjoy my kids, all of them together. Not that I don’t enjoy them now but with a baby it gets kind of hard to evenly distributed the attention. Babies just need you more at times for the first bit. I will always cherish the moments of memories of meeting my children for the first time, snuggling their tiny bodies, and watching them start to explore their world but I’m not sad that time is coming to an end.
I will never have another newborn, or experience first words, or first steps but there will be a lot of other firsts that I am so excited for. First days of school, first time riding a bike, first dates, first jobs, the list goes on. Hopefully if you are someone who has had your last you’ll remember there will still be a lot of firsts. It’s okay to be sad about it but it’s also okay not to be. A chapter is ending but the book isn’t done, there’s still so much left to be written.
Having children is a personal choice, there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to whether or not someone should have them. It’s definitely not for everyone and that’s okay. For me, I always knew I wanted to have kids. Fast forward to being 20 years old, and my first child was born.
There really aren’t any words that can quite explain the feeling you get meeting your child for the first time. Guaranteed the quickest you will ever fall in love with another human. It’s amazing how quickly you can go from I just met you to I would literally die for you. I know that not everyone has this feeling right away I’m just speaking on my personal experience.
Fast forward again to present day. I now have three amazing kids. Watching them all grow is definitely one of the best things about parenting. You get to help mold the next generation. It’s a huge responsibility but also a huge honor.
Another great thing about parenting is firsts. Whether it’s the first word or first step, getting to experience these things with your child is one of the best feelings ever. One of my favorite firsts was Dominic’s first trip to the movies. A friend and I took him to see Cars 2 and he loved it. He was so excited I think he stood through the whole movie.
There are so many things that make being a parent one of the best jobs in the world. Whether is family vacations or sitting around the house watching tv together oh and let’s not forget baby laughs, tell me a better sound than a baby laugh. For me, my favorite would have to be the unconditional love of your children. My boys are always telling me how much they love me and my daughter lights up and runs for me the second I walk through the door.
Parenting definitely has its share of hardships and struggles but that’s a post for another time. For today I’m all about how lucky I feel to have children of my own. I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.