An Open Letter to Ukiah


My second born, my free spirit. I was so afraid when I found out I was pregnant with you, I didn’t think it was possible to love another person as much as I love your brother and that scared me but then you came and all of those fears were immediately replaced with love. Watching you imagination work is an adventure, like your brother your creativity is inspiring. You’re so smart maybe even too smart for your own good and that gets you into trouble from time to time but you never cease to amaze me. You have such a fiery little personality but I think you balance that out with how caring you are and I hope you never lose that. You are always there for your brother and even though you are younger you always look out for him. I was worried how you would be once your sister came but you’ve pretty much been nailing the big brother thing too. From the time you started talking you’ve told me you want to grow up and be a doctor to kids in the hospital. It will be amazing to watch you go down that path of your mind doesn’t change over the years. Whatever it is you choose to be when you grow up I know you’ll be great.

I love you,

Ashley/mom (yes he calls me by my first name)


An Open letter to Dominic


My first born and my first real love. Everyday you surprise me with how much you are growing. It’s hard to imagine my life before you, I never knew how much I needed you until the day you were born. You have taught me so much patience and I have so much admiration for you. You are one of the strongest kids I know. Your brain may be wired differently but you don’t let your struggles defeat you. You are such a loving human and although we seem to be going through a rough age I know you will grow up to be one of the kindest people there is. I hope as you get older you hold onto that creativity that you are overflowing with. It fills my heart with happiness when I watch you and your little brother and sister play together. I hope when you are all grown you remain close and the best of friends. The future still has a lot of unknowns but one thing I know for sure is you’re going to be great kid, I look forward to watching you grow into the amazing man I know you will be.

I love you,


10 wishes I have for my kids

When you become a parent it’s like something inside you is awakened. You have this new found love that you never imagined possible and a primal urge to do anything and everything you can to protect that child.

From the moment they’re born you begin to wonder about their future. What will they be when they grow up, will they want to move away, will they get married and have children? Wherever they go in life I hope that they have these 10 things.

Self love. I hope they learn to love themselves first and foremost.

Understanding. For themselves and for others.

Patience. Not everything happens right when we want it to and that’s okay.

Kindness. There isn’t enough in this world and I’m a firm believer in the quote “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”

Integrity. Doing what’s right is important, and we must do it even when it’s hard.

Creativity. Thinking outside of the box can get you far in life.

Health. Take care of yourselves physically and emotionally, it’s so important.

Sense of wonder. You all have it and my hope is that you never lose it.

Passion. Find things that make you feel alive and keep doing them.

Appreciation. Don’t forget to appreciate what you have and don’t ever miss an opportunity to let someone know you appreciate them.

I’m sure there are a lot more things that can be added to this list but I think these things are a great start and my hope is they are able to build a great life from them.