I want to start off by saying there is no right or wrong when it comes to choosing between being a SAHP and a working parent. Doing what works best for you and yours is what’s important and I also know sometimes we don’t get a choice. I’ve been fortunate enough that I’ve been able to give both roles a shot and I learned each has their perks and each has their downside.
My time as a SAHM was pretty great, I loved being able to spend almost all my time with my kids. You get to experience a lot of firsts when you’re with them every waking moment of the day. Watching them learn and grow as into little people is such a wonderful experience. Spending every moment with them can also be a test of your sanity. There is definitely such a thing as being touched out. Sometimes you need just five minutes where no one else wants to be picked up, sit in your lap or use you as a jungle gym. Staying at home is definitely not any less work, have you ever tried cleaning the house when there are small children in it? They can be like tiny tornados and sometimes the work feels like it’s never ending. For me though getting that time with kids is worth the brush with insanity.
Currently I’m a working mom. I work from 5:30AM until 1:00PM. Between having a one year old and a four year old sleep is still something I don’t get much of so I’m pretty exhausted a lot of the time. It is nice to get out of the house and talk to other adults but I do find myself counting down the minutes until I get to go back home and be with my children. The extra money is definitely a bonus, not long ago my husband stayed home with the kids while I worked. It was really hard living on one paycheck but it worked. About a year ago my mom moved back to our state so he was able to work again. Thanks to her we can afford to do things like use the heat and take family trips to Disneyland.
I think given the choice, I would love to stay home with my kids but also make money so that we can continue to do things. I think one of the hardest things for me when I was a SAHM was we couldn’t afford to do anything and sitting at home all day everyday drive me insane. My hope is someday I will win the lottery, or maybe getting enough of a following here that writing and making Minnie ears will someday make enough to at least allow me more time at home than I get now. Long shot for sure but a girl can dream right?
If you’re a parent what’s your preference? If you could choose to be either what would you do?