This is going to be kind of a rant post so grab a seat and your drink of choice and have a listen. Now as I’ve mentioned in the past that my oldest is on the spectrum. He just started middle school this year and man has it been an adjustment.
I’ve always thought myself as one of the lucky ones when it comes to school and IEPs. I loved the staff at his elementary school, the treated him well and were good about giving him the help he needs. He is mainstreamed but pulled for support. He struggles with processing and language both receptive and expressive so the extra help is vital.
With middle school comes multiple classes and multiple teachers. Making sure everyone is on the same page is no easy feat. Thankfully there’s email am I right? See you’d think that but when you’re emailing a teacher three times reminding them your kid has two finished assignments and a third he needs help with that are all currently marked as missing causing him to have an F and they don’t respond, it’s enough to make anyone want to lose their shit. Especially when you’ve a ‘pre’ IEP meeting to express your concerns and discuss his needs.
How about the teacher who sends home an assignment that needs to be made up but doesn’t send home the material telling me she had hoped he would remember it.
^seriously my face reading that email. Now I don’t know what the hell is going on at this school or how they normally run things but what I do know is my sons needs are not being met and that my friends is absolutely unacceptable.
Thankfully we have his IEP meeting coming up in less than a month. Now these teachers haven’t got to know me too well yet but they’re about to. I’m about to become that parent that nightmares are made of if they don’t get their shit together and meet his needs. I get that teachers have a lot on their plate and I could never do what they do, but I also know that they have a duty to our kids, even the ones who need a little extra help.
I’m going to walk into this meeting with high hopes that things are going to change. I will listen to what they have to say but I will also be heard. I will not accept excuses and I will make sure that they know they must do better by my son and if they don’t there will be hell to pay.
Check back next month to see how things went, I will definitely be writing a follow up post.